For many years, I have enjoyed having "Unfair Mom" as my super-hero alter-ego. Almost every time I read that name, I think back to that time when my daughter was 6-11 years old, full of innocence and curiosity, with a love of science and nature that made us both dream big for what the future must hold. I admired her strength to stand up when she didn't think something was right, and her heart to listen when her friends needed to talk. ... Not that she wasn't all these things before or after the ages of 6-11. - That is just the time frame my mind jumps back to when I see the name "Unfair Mom."
I loved being "Unfair Mom." A name that was never meant to promote anything unjust. Instead, it was meant to acknowledge that sometimes, life is unfair. Especially when you are a kid, and your limited perspective makes it hard to understand.
But something has changed. In October 2024, we lost my daughter. And now, the memories that flood my mind when I see the name "Unfair Mom" are accompanied by a sadness that I hope you will never know.
I do not want to erase Unfair Mom. She marks an important time in my life. But I need to step back from her so I can move forward in life. I need to stop seeing her name every time I want to post on my blog or use Social Media. I need to get away from the confusion of wondering if I'm a fraud, still referring to myself as a "mom" when my baby is gone.
So you may still see me refer to or post about her from time to time. Especially when and if I find the time to post some of the entries I started years ago. But as of now, I am officially taking a step back.
The Blog of Unfair Mom will be rolled into "Bright Blue Nest," a site that I hope will simplify my life by combining multiple online projects so that I can move forward with new focus.
-- Michelle (a.k.a. Unfair Mom)
April 6, 2026 Update: That was short-lived.
I gave it a try. I thought that taking a step back from Unfair Mom would be good for my mental health. But I have been a whole new level of out of sorts over the past few weeks. ... So maybe I will hold on to UnfairMom for a while longer. I still love my daughter. And I still want to be able to post freely without worrying how it will affect the business end of Bright Blue Nest.
I am not ready to let Unfair Mom go. Maybe I never will be. ... Perhaps a better approach would be to update the look of UnfairMom.com to better reflect where I am in life.
A Screenshot For The Memories:
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